You might think you’re invisible
...but I see you
You work hard but no matter how much pressure you put on yourself, you rarely, if ever, live up to your own expectations.
You want things to change but you're frustrated and not sure how to change them.
Your social feed tells you to just #stopprocrastinating, do some #self-care and #loveyourself, as if you can just flip an internal switch and everything will be fine.
But I think we both know there’s not enough bubble bath in the world to make up for the fact that some days - maybe even most days - it feels like you’re drowning when everyone else is swimming.
It’s not just you.
Our culture has insane expectations for women. Many of them go unspoken and unchallenged– but that doesn’t change the fact that we spend most of our time and energy trying to live up to them.
“We are a generation of young women who were told we could do anything and instead heard that we had to be everything.”
― Courtney E. Martin, Perfect Girls, Starving Daughters
We're taught that women should be pretty, thin and always striving to perfect our bodies.
We learn that we should be quiet and uncomplicated and keep our opinions to ourselves.
At school, and then at work, it became clear that we should be quiet, non-confrontational and allow others to take credit for our ideas.
And we haven’t even gotten to the Catch-22s yet.
Our cultural myths about the perfect woman have us walking a bouncing tightrope.
Be pretty and sexy, but not slutty
Be compassionate, but not emotional or "hysterical"
Be assertive, but not bossy, bitchy or opinionated
Speak up, but don’t be shrill
All of this should look as effortless as possible, natch.
As a culture, we’ve decided that, for women,
perfection is the baseline expectation.
And it’s making us fucking miserable.
By holding ourselves to ridiculous standards,
we’re making our own lives miserable
and we’re screwing over other women as well.
So how do we break the cycle? That's where I come in.
Hey there, I'm Jen. I help women overcome their self-doubt, bullshit expectations and internalized misogyny so they can get curious about what they really want and live, love and lead on their own terms.
Rumor has it that I also not-so-secretly radicalize women to become social justice warriors hellbent on the existing power structure.
With my clients, I hold a sacred space to go through the process to uncover their unique inner roadblocks. You'll learn to make peace with your inner critic, talk about what lights you up and what scares the hell out of you and clear what's holding you back. My process is a blend of wholehearted empathy, intuitive questioning, grounded motivation, and a sprinkle of magic that allows clients to access their feminine wisdom, build resiliency and step into authentic power.
My Alphabet Soup: I'm a professional certified coach (PCC) through the International Coach Federation (ICF). I have an MA in Human Development and I'm both a Certified Daring Way™ Facilitator and a Certified Dare to Lead™ Facilitator (which means that my work incorporates the research of Dr. Brené Brown).
I found Jen’s small group workshop to be super helpful. It was a judgement-free environment where I felt supported and encouraged. I loved that the podcasts and homework were short enough so that we would have time to do them, but long enough to give us real insight and precipitate change.
I look forward to taking another class from Jen to learn more about thought processes that I didn’t even know I had as well as ways I can grow and become even more badass!
- Rebecca F.
No matter where you are right now,
you can jump right into this work.
When you learn to recognize and overcome your internal bullshit,
you become a force to be reckoned with.
You get to choose the direction that you want to head in
and kick the things you don't want to the curb.
You can stop people-pleasing and create meaningful relationships with people you choose to have in your life.
You get to build your courage and confidence to speak up for what you believe in, create what you want, and have an impact on the world.